Are You Drama Filled or Drama Free?
If you’re like me, you’ve often said—or thought—I don’t do drama.
Yet, as much as you and I would like to shut the chaos, confusion and cattiness out of our lives, drama has a way of creeping into our lives anyway.
Whether our drama is the petty kind (like being gossiped about or having a bad day) or the truly painful kind that catches us off guard (like a fearful diagnosis, the ending of a friendship or suddenly losing someone we love), how we respond makes all the difference—or all the drama—in the world.
Our upbringing, personality and baggage from past wounds can trigger dramatic reactions to varying degrees, especially if we are unaware of our vulnerabilities and what we are capable of. For instance:
- Do you tend to react emotionally to the unexpected, and think more clearly a little later?
- Do you have high expectations of others, especially those closest to you?
- Are you easily offended?
- Do you care deeply what others think of you?
- Would you rather stay silent than talk about an issue that’s bothering you?
If you said “yes” to any of those questions, you’re pretty much like every woman—you have emotions that sometimes get the best of you. But you and I can learn to maturely respond—rather than emotionally react—to what life brings us so that we can dial down the drama, diffuse it or eliminate it altogether.
Here are three steps to help you be drama free:
1. Consider the bigger picture.
Life—and therefore every circumstance you encounter—is meant to conform you to the image of Christ (Romans 8:28-29). Once you consider this, you can relax and realize God knows what He’s doing in what He’s allowing. You can then focus on passing the test, rather than failing it through unnecessary drama.
2. Capture your thoughts.
In 2 Corinthians 10:5 we are instructed to take our thoughts captive to the obedience of Christ because we are in a spiritual war in which the enemy will do his best to run rampant through our thought life, creating doubt, fear and confusion.
To take our thoughts captive to the obedience of Christ means capturing or binding them with the truth of God’s Word. Instead of entertaining a loose thought like “I can’t get through this situation,” capture that thought with the truth of God’s Word: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13). The more you know of God’s Word, the better you will be able to tame your reckless, wild thoughts.
3. Correct Your Thinking
When you begin to feel overwhelmed by a situation, ask yourself, “What am I believing about God that isn’t true?” Then focus on the facts about God not your feelings about what might or might not be happening. When we know who God is and what He is capable of, our worries, fears and freak-outs can be stilled.
Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and author who helps women and couples strengthen their relationship with God and others. She is the author of 15 books including her newest, Drama Free: Finding Peace When Emotions Overwhelm You. For more on her books and ministry, see her website: www.StrengthForTheSoul.com.