The Road to Adoption
by Steven Curtis Chapman
About a week later, we were driving down Hillsboro Road together as a family. As usual, the kids were badgering us about adoption. “Mom, Dad, are we gonna adopt? Can we adopt a baby from China?”
Although their persistence was a little annoying on one level, it was a beautiful thing on another. After all, they weren’t begging to go to Disney World, or for a new bicycle, or for something frivolous.
“Okay, listen up,” I said. “Here’s what we can tell you. We are on Hillsboro Road right now. You guys may not know this, but there is a little town known as Hillsboro, and if we stayed on this road long enough, we’d arrive at that town. So we’re gonna get on Adoption Road.”
The kids interrupted me with wild cheers. “Yeah! All right! We’re on the road!”
“Whoa, slow down,” I cautioned. “We’ll get on Adoption Road. Whether or not we will ever get to Adoption we’re not sure about yet. We may have to make some turns. There may be some detours. We may hit a roadblock and go somewhere else. But from Mom’s and my perspective, we’re willing to head down the road. We’ll see where God directs us. Can you guys be okay with that?”
Another cheer rose in the back of the car. “Yeah, yeah! We’re on the road!”
Not only were Emily, Caleb, and Will able to comprehend my illustration, but that concept gave Mary Beth a sense of peace as well. The pressure was off. We were on a journey, but at any point, God could redirect our path.
He could recalculate the GPS at His discretion. More importantly, He could lead us as we took each step—or not. That was liberating for Mary Beth. It really was a step of faith in a way she had never previously experienced.
A short time later, she and I were doing a magazine interview by phone, with both of us on the call at the same time, Mary Beth on the house phone and me sitting outside on the porch steps. At some point in the interview, the subject of adoption came up. We mentioned that with great trepidation we were praying about adopting a child.
Sitting on the porch, listening to Mary Beth respond, I heard her say, “I’ve come to the realization that if I am going to live by faith, I’m going to have to take some steps in the dark. I don’t like that. I like to know where I’m going. I like to see everything laid out neatly. I’m organized, and my husband drives me crazy with his creativity and spontaneity. But I realize that faith in God implies that you are taking a journey into the unknown and you are trusting that God is going to be there.”
I was amazed at what I was hearing, but Mary Beth wasn’t done. “I’ve called myself a woman of faith for years,” she said, “but I think this is the first time I’ve trusted when I can’t see. So we’re going to take the next steps, trusting God and believing that this is the direction we should go.”
Tears welled in my eyes. I had asked God to let me hear the words from Mary Beth’s mouth. This was a confirmation in my heart and mind that we were supposed to adopt.
Steven Curtis Chapman, Between Heaven & the Real World, Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group, 2017. Used by permission.
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