Angry? Not Really!
You’ve probably heard that anger is a secondary emotion, meaning that there is often a primary feeling lurking beneath the surface of our strong feelings of displeasure. The emotion of fear is one of the most prevalent primary emotions in our culture today; it is the dread of a loss. It has many manifestations (insecurity, procrastination, etc.), but let’s just consider one: jealousy–the fear of being displaced. It is one of the most common instances of the relationship between fear and anger. Some people get angry when another person of the opposite sex pays too much attention to their spouse or significant other. Perhaps for most, it would be too painful to admit they fear the loss of affection or even abandonment. They choose rather to allow their insecurity to turn them into an angry person with fractured and unfulfilling relationships. So, what do you do when you are plagued with such fears?
- Be honest about this primary emotion and ask yourself, “What exactly do I fear losing—possessions, favor, reputation, a relationship, status, etc.?”
- Surrender everything you prize or value to Him and trust Him to protect it. “Lord, you alone are my inheritance, my cup of blessing. You guard all that is mine (Psalm 16:5 NLT).
- Daily declare your freedom from the bondage of fear by praying the Word of God. Ex: Father, You are my refuge and my strength, a very present help in my time of trouble. Therefore, I will not fear (Psalm 46:1-2).