A Man’s Job
by Justin Buzzard
Before God gave the first man a wife, he gave him a job. God took the man, put him in a garden, and there gave the man a twofold mission:
The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it. (Gen. 2:15)
Fundamental to his manhood, God gave Adam this double calling: work and keep. These Hebrew verbs can be better translated: cultivate and guard. God commissioned the first man to cultivate the garden and guard the garden. God gave the first man immense responsibility, immense power, to cause the garden to flourish or to fade.
God gave this to you, too. God gave you this same calling, this same responsibility, this same power. Your ancestry goes all the way back to Adam. We are all related to the first man. We are men and, whatever garden God has put us in, we have been put there to cultivate and guard that garden. To be a man is to be entrusted with enormous privilege and responsibility. To be a man is to be a cultivator and guardian. To be a man is to know God put you on this planet to cause life to flourish.
God created Adam and God created you to cultivate and guard.
And Adam screwed it all up.
And so have we.
God gave Adam a job before he gave him a wife. So, when God presented Adam with his bride, what did Adam know he was called to do as a husband? If you had to summarize it in a sentence, what was Adam called to do for his marriage and for his wife?
Cultivate it and guard it.
This is exactly what the first husband failed to do. Adam failed to cultivate his wife—he didn’t cause her to flourish. Adam failed to guard his wife—he didn’t protect her from danger.
To date your wife is to cultivate and guard her. Dating your wife means to cultivate and guard your wife and your marriage. Cultivate it and guard it. You haven’t done it. One way or another, you and I are just like Adam. We’ve failed to be the man that God has created and commissioned us to be.
What’s wrong with your marriage? Until you can authentically answer, “Me,” until you can feel that answer deep in your guts, this book won’t help you or your marriage.