Freedom after Abortion
by Amy Ford
There were 10,000 women in attendance at the Pink Impact Conference where I was speaking. A women’s ministry leader interviewed me on stage, asking questions about the history of Embrace Grace and how God had given me the idea for it at a Pink Impact Conference some years earlier.
Much of what I said that day focused on how women who choose life are brave. That courage benefits the world because brave moms raise brave kids. We were wrapping up the interview, and Debbie was thanking me for being a guest, when the Lord prompted me to say one more thing.
I said, “Debbie, there are ten thousand women in this arena, which means about 2,500 of you have experienced an abortion. I really felt like the Lord wanted me to say something to you ladies. The Lord wants to start the healing process in your heart this weekend at this ministry event. Many of you feel disqualified from ministry, but God wants you to know that He qualifies you. You are an overcomer, and we overcome through Jesus and by sharing our stories. Your story can help save lives! He loves you so much. Just open your heart to Him.”
We had two Embrace Grace vendor booths at this arena, one on each end. As I closed the interview from the stage, our team quickly made their way back to our booths because they had a sense of what God was about to do.
Then the session released, and women began flooding our booths. Many were inspired by the ministry and wanted to see how they could get involved and start an Embrace Grace group for women with unexpected pregnancies at their own church. But what I could not get over were the hundreds of women with mascara smeared around their eyes because they had been crying so hard. Each of them looked into my eyes with that look, and I just knew. They didn’t have to say a word.
I knew they had experienced an abortion.
Some just looked at our materials and took it all in. Others opened up about what happened years before. And every story we heard had a common element: Fear had been the reason they had chosen abortion.
There is one woman I will never forget. She and her two sisters were wearing matching hot pink t-shirts that they’d made for the conference, expecting a light-hearted, energetic weekend together. But God had different plans. More than fun, He had wanted her to be free.
She had been so moved by my message that her sisters almost had to hold her up as she walked up to the booth. When they approached, one of them said quietly, “Our sister was very touched by what you said today. She asked us to bring her to meet you. She’s really emotional and having a hard time talking.”
It was a long time before she could say what she wanted to say. Finally, she looked up at me with a tear-drenched face and forced out a whisper with intensity. She asked, “Do you mean to tell me that God can use me?”
The thought had never crossed her mind. The pain, grief and regret of her abortion decision had fueled feelings of unworthiness. But that day something changed inside of her. Hope was rising, and she began to dream about the possibility of making a difference in the world, despite the pain from her past.
The truth is that God forgives. You just have to ask. And He wants to heal your heart. Check out and join an abortion healing group at a local church or pregnancy center near you. Heart work can be hard work but so worth it. Then, pray about how to get involved in the pro-life movement! We need your help!
If you’re not sure where to jump in, think about what you really needed at the time of your abortion decision. What would have given you the courage to choose life? You can fill the void for someone else and show up for them the way you wish someone had shown up for you. Be what you needed. You can help save lives and empower women in their life decision! Nothing disqualifies you from the call to help.
Revelation 12:11 says, “And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony” (NKJV). Sharing your story, even if it’s just with one person, is healing! Serve at a local pregnancy center near you and talk with women that need comfort and hope when they first find out they are pregnant. Lead an Embrace Grace support group at your church for women with unexpected pregnancies. There are so many ways to get involved in the movement! You can find hundreds of ideas in my new book, Help Her Be Brave: Discover Your Place in the Pro-Life Movement.
Whether you’ve had an abortion yourself, or your heart just breaks for those who have, follow the map of your heartbreak and partner with heaven to heal others. Guilt and shame have no hold on you, they have no power to hold you back from your role in the Kingdom.
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