Having a Baby Changes Everything
Transitioning Your Body, Mind & Spirit to Motherhood
by Jessica Wolstenholm
It’s true what they say, having a baby does change everything. There is no way to fully anticipate the adjustment of welcoming a new life into your heart and your home but you can prepare your body, mind and spirit for the transition.
Pregnancy takes a toll on your body. There is no doubt about that. For nine months you are growing another human being inside of you. That’s just hard work – even for the most amazingly complex beings of creation. But God created our bodies to be a vessel for the miracle of life. What an honor to partner with Him in the process.
Although you probably understand the miracle you are taking part in, it’s very possible that you will be unhappy with the effects of pregnancy on your body. I’ve always loved the Psalmist’s words in chapter 139 but they’ve become more real to me since I’ve been a mother.
“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:13-14
As you look upon your new baby with awe, remember that you are both wonderfully created for His purpose. While you may feel the need to focus on getting your body back in shape after baby arrives, first remember how precious you are to the Father and how beautifully He’s made you. If you can operate out of this truth, your wellness journey will be much smoother and void of pressure and condemnation.
I believe the forgetfulness that most women experience in pregnancy is preparation for what is to come. Being a mom requires a whole new level of attentiveness and involves countless details you’ve never had to focus on before. It’s enough to make you think you are losing your mind. Yet we have access to a God who will renew our mind if we press into Him daily.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2
As a new mom, you will receive advice; information and well intentioned, yet often unwelcome comments that can make your head spin. Be committed to the daily renewal of your mind so you can “test and approve” God’s will for your baby and your family. This renewal not only comes from the Word and prayer, it also comes from simply finding time for you. Read a book, pick back up on your favorite hobby – it may not happen in the first month or two, but work toward something that connects your mind to your heart through relaxation and enjoyment.
Focusing on the spirit is two-fold. First, we must invite the Spirit of God to dwell within us and second, we must allow His Spirit to saturate our own.
“For the Spirit of God does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:7
Power, love and self-discipline – the perfect traits of a kick-your-new-role-in-the-butt mom! These qualities can only come from a life connected to the Spirit through daily dwelling. This might seem impossible with everything you must now think about as a mom. But it’s not. Actually, our desperation makes it even more possible – which I believe to be one of the beautiful purposes of motherhood.
Despite your busyness and exhaustion, create a welcoming environment in your heart for the Spirit to dwell. That place may not be void of questions or frustrations – it just needs to be open. Nurture your spirit through prayer and reading the Word. Don’t get caught up in perfection. Simply call to Him and He will meet you where you are.
As you invite His Spirit into your presence each and every day, He will fill you with power to thrive as a mom, love to pour over your family and self-discipline to balance your new normal.
Motherhood is one of God’s most amazing ways of drawing us to Him. Having a baby will change everything; most of all, it will deepen your dependence on God and open your eyes to His infinite love.
I can’t think of a better result of the miracle of life.