Heart Of Remarriage
by Gary & Greg Smalley
A heart at peace gives life to the body. Proverbs 14:30
What if we told you that we believe that love, satisfaction and joy in your remarriage are only a heartbeat away? Well, maybe not just one heartbeat, but it’s absolutely true that the quality of your remarriage is all determined by the state of your heart. It’s easy to blame your mate, your children or stepchildren or your previous spouse for all of your problems; but the truth is that the quality of your life and your relationships stems from your own heart.
Here’s the key: If your heart has an OPEN sign in the window, you are overflowing with love. If painful relationship experiences have flipped that sign over to the CLOSED side, you’re out of the love business. It’s that simple.
In many a remarriage, a couple gets together thinking that their hearts are wide open to each other and will stay that way. In reality, their heart signs may say OPEN, but the doors are actually locked. When their dream of putting together a perfect stepfamily is quickly shattered, the fantasy bubble bursts, and 7 out of 10 stepfamilies pull apart.1
You can be the one to beat the odds. We know you can. If you learn the importance of the state of your heart and how to open it and protect it so it can remain open, your remarriage can make it for a lifetime. Once you begin to understand the power of your heart, you can equip yourself with tools to harness painful or troublesome emotions and improve the level of peace, joy and satisfaction in your remarriage. You’ll have the ability to better manage every remarriage challenge that comes your way.
Why is the heart so important? Because it is the part that connects us with a holy, living God.
Excerpted from The Heart of Remarriage 2010 by Gary and Greg Smalley. Published by Gospel Light. Used by permission. All rights reserved.