In His Sight

8 comments Posted on January 1, 2020

by Rhonda Madge 

Theodore Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Well said, Mr. Roosevelt. I know this to be true. 

How many times have I looked at another woman and thought…

I would love to have her hair…

I cannot speak as well as her…

I wish I was as fit as her…

It really boils down to this—I’m telling myself that I don’t like who I am, and therefore who God made me to be. At times I dare to ponder, will I stand before Jesus someday and say, “I wish you had made me different”? I don’t think so, or at least I very much hope that I would not. His written word says that He has created me to be fearfully and wonderfully made. Would I be able to say to Jesus, “But, You didn’t make me the way I desired”? Ouch. Perhaps I should have asked for more humility instead.

I can only imagine His whisper in return. “But, I made you like Me…”

I don’t know about you, but that makes my heart ache. As a mother who is pained by my own failings in the eyes of my children, it would seem nearly impossible to bear should that judgement come from one whom I had made, piece by piece, to be what I deemed perfect. It’s time we started seeing ourselves the way He sees us. Psalms 139:17-18 tells me that His thoughts of me are precious and they outnumber the sand. In other words, we are perfect in His sight. 

Yet every time I compare myself to someone else, it’s either because I believe them to have attributes that I don’t or, perhaps even worse, I believe myself to be better than them. 

Comparison can take an ugly turn into envy or pride. These two terms are used together in the book of Mark, and neither result is pretty.

Covetous deeds and wickedness, deceit and sensuality, envy and slander, pride and foolishness. “All these evil things proceed from within and defile the man.” Mark 7:22-23

The footnote in my Bible says that an evil action begins with a thought.

One thought. One single thought can start my mind tumbling down a path that is both dark and difficult to stop. Instead, Paul advises us, “Finally, brothers (and sisters) whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things(Philippians 4:8).

Paul tells me what to think about in place of those things that would lead me to defile myself and, quite frankly, those around me as well.

I am beautiful in Your sight, Lord…

Thank you for how You have gifted me…

I can just hear some of you right now. “But how do we do that? Clearly it is much easier said than done!” And you would be right. It’s not easy. It has to be a discipline that begins with recognizing the thought you are having is not one that Jesus would be having; then secondly, change that thought to one that is lovely—one that He would have. 

If we compare ourselves to anyone—let it be Jesus, who is perfect in every way…

Rhonda Taylor Madge is the author of Hindsight: Seeing Clearly Through the Veil of Deception, based on a true story. As a speaker and writer, she is committed to sharing with others the message of God’s radical mercy so that all may come to know Him in a personal, intimate way.

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  • 01/18/2020
    Donna Lancaster said:

    Rhonda Madge is gifted with the ability to bring a new light to feelings and emotions to what we all feel from time to time.

  • 01/18/2020
    Connie Peacher said:

    Rhonda is a people person who brings an insight of love into the lives of those around her. She continually blesses each of us.

  • 01/18/2020
    Jo Webb said:

    Rhonda reminds us what the Word says about us. We live in a time where advertisers and social media constantly tells us we aren’t good enough, which leaves us in a constant state of disappointment and trying to obtain the next new thing; when what we really need is to trust what HE says about us. Thank you Sweet Sister for your heart!

  • 01/18/2020
    Lesa Fitzhugh said:

    Rhonda is Such a Blessing to me as I know many others . The obeisance she has to our Lord and Savior by sharing publicly her life so others may come to realize we All have Struggles and there is nothing we have done that can not be covered by the Blood of Jesus ! Thank you Rhonda May God Continue to use you for his Glory ❣️

  • 01/18/2020
    Charlene Miller said:

    Thank you, Rhonda. I really needed this right now. God’s perfect timing, right? I appreciate you so much. I hope we will be seeing more of these articles. You have a true gift to uplift and inspire.

  • 01/18/2020
    Michelle Teague said:

    This is such an important subject. Thank you Rhonda for this wonderful and heartfelt teaching on it.

  • 01/18/2020
    Shawna Perrin said:

    Rhonda is such a blessing and God has truly gifted her with the gift of writing and inspiring others. She truly has a heart for God, people and demonstrates Christ-like love for others as well as having a servants heart. She has touched so many lives by sharing her struggles and sharing how God has helped her to overcome lives challenges. We all face struggles, imperfections and insecurities of not feeling like we are enough but often tuck them away in fear of being judged by others or letting others down! It’s great to be able to share our feelings with others because through God and his people, we draw great strength! Thank you so much for sharing God and your heart with the world. I pray for God to continue to bless you and yours.

  • 01/18/2020
    Norma Givens said:

    What a blessing Rhonda is to me! She is an amazing woman of God! Love you!


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