Make This a Season of Reason

0 comments Posted on November 1, 2013

Dear Deborah,
My family is expecting me to spend a lot for their Christmas presents. Although I’d like to do that, I’ve decided I need to set a budget this year. Just so you know, in the past we’ve pretty much bought what we wanted on credit. How can we avoid overspending and still have holiday harmony? – Catherine

First of all, let’s not forget the true meaning of Christmas. It’s not about having more things. It’s more than gifts and glitter.

Let’s keep Christ in Christmas, remembering God’s gift of His Son extended to all humanity.

artdebtfreelivingAs we celebrate the true reason for the season, let’s make this a season of reason. Let’s be fiscally reasonable. We can purchase gifts that fit within the family budget.

Resolve to pay cash for gifts. Why should we stress and worry about our credit card bills after the holiday season? Do we really want to be saddled with debt that extends into the New Year and beyond? The “borrow now, pay later” philosophy is costly.

The average purchases on credit cards end up costing more than twice as much when they aren’t paid off right away, according to  Families are discovering that revolving debt with growing interest is not a great solution. Let’s resolve to spend a portion of today’s money and not tomorrow’s money on gifts.

A writer friend says you know you’ve spent too much on Christmas presents when you use cardboard boxes, wrapping paper and computer manuals to heat your home.

Decide what funds are available for gifts. Write down that dollar amount as a spending limit. Stick to it.

Set realistic expectations with the family. Adjust the family’s expectations now, taking some time to talk with them. Explain the change in your spending plans this year. You’ve recently looked at your budget and you’ve decided what is best for the family.

Make a gift-giving list. Spend to meet the recipients’ needs and wants. When on a set budget, consider giving children a few things they really want, instead of many gifts. If necessary, pool funds for the more expensive item. Think of gifts that are useful long-term as well as in the moment.

livingbalancedRecipients usually think more about whether the gift is chosen thoughtfully than its price. A recent study entitled “Money Can’t Buy Love” tends to support this. The paper says that there’s not a substantial link between how much the recipient appreciates the gift and its cost (Journal of Experimental Psychology).

When you’re finished buying and wrapping the gifts, relax. You’ve been resourceful and stayed in control of your holiday spending. Enjoy the celebrations of the season with your family.

Deborah Nayrocker writes on personal money management topics, showing others how to take control of their financial future. An award-winning writer and columnist, she is the author of The Art of Debt-Free Living and Living a Balanced Financial Life. Her Web site is

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