Red Hot Romance on a Dime

1 comment Posted on February 1, 2015

by Bill & Pam Farrel

Romance doesn’t need to cost a lot to mean a lot. As the authors of Red Hot Monogamy, Red Hot Romance Tips for Women and 52 Ways to Wow Your Husband, we have collected hundreds of free or nearly free ideas to fan the flame on love.

Take 5
To spark your own creative juices, one of the easiest ways to keep a marriage sizzling is to plan a red hot romantic encounter with the five senses in mind:

SecretLanguageSuccessfulCouplesHear: Download some new romantic music that includes his and her favorite love songs. You can also use a sound machine or a “white noise ap” to bring in the atmosphere of falling rain, a dancing fire, the sound of ocean waves or a babbling brook.

Smell: Use his favorite smell of home baked cookies, his favorite meal or a smell from your history together. (For example, the smell of cocoa butter might remind you both of a honeymoon or anniversary in Hawaii.) Or cook a meal from a country you would like to travel to one day, then spend time surfing the internet travel sites together to learn more about that dream destination.

Touch: Give the gift of touch with a neck and shoulder massage, a foot rub, or simply curl up near a cozy fire or on the deck under a blanket under the stars. Touch releases endorphins which will help your mate’s heart be drawn to yours.

Taste: Mama was right; the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. And any day a wife doesn’t have to make dinner is a romantic day. Many couples find it relaxing to plan and cook a meal together. In Red Hot Romance Tips for Women, we give a list of foods that science and history have linked to love. (For example, in ancient Rome if you loved someone, you would use a term of endearment by calling your love “Cinnamon.”)

Sight: Each of you shop in each other’s closet for the favorite outfit you enjoy seeing your mate in. In Pam’s book, 52 Ways to Wow Your Husband, Pam shares a story of one ingenious wife who knew money was tight around Valentine’s Day so she simply gave a fashion show for her husband from bedroom attire already in her closet. Another idea, if funds are tight, is to try on outfits and take a picture of what you would buy if you could (or what you might buy later as a surprise for your mate).

If you use all five senses, the memory will linger longer in your heart and mind.

Fast and Fun Romantic Ideas
Romance doesn’t even need to include an entire date. Bill and I like to weave romance along the journey of our life.

  • Create a photo postcard of the two of you, and on the backside, write a thank you for that special memory and an invitation to another romantic activity.
  • Re-create your first date. If you can still fit into them, wear the same clothes, if not, at least go to the same places.
  • Check a book out of the library or buy a book of love poems. Sit in front of the fireplace in each other’s arms and take turns reading poems to each other.
  • Create a mailbox for love notes. Place it in your bathroom, on the kitchen table, etc. and exchange love mail.
  • Use everyday items to send a unique set of messages with a note that says, “You are a ‘Big Hunk’” (candy bar) or “You are my ‘Life’” (cereal).
  • Design a magazine cover using your spouse’s picture with catchy headlines that reflect his or her best qualities.
  • Have dinner someplace different in your home: in front of the fire place, on the rooftop, on the patio or balcony out back, in the attic, or under the tree in the backyard.
  • Leave love notes between pages of a book or magazine your mate is reading as an invitation to a night on the town.
  • Make a public statement of your love. Make a banner for the garage door, write in chalk on the driveway, or paint a love note on a wall that you are going to repaint anyway.
  • Use inexpensive Valentines to create a trail of clues that lead to a romantic destination. You can also make this into a car rally by taping the Valentines around town.
  • Look at your wedding album and talk about what first attracted you to your mate.
  • Kiss every time you see something specific (e.g. at green lights, anytime you see your favorite flower, or hear your favorite song). Dave and Claudia Arp, marriage specialist, kiss when they see a body of water. We kiss in every elevator we find ourselves alone in.
  • “How do I love thee? Let me count the ways”: Write on index cards all the reasons you love your spouse. Make a paper chain of her or his best qualities. Or give a flower for each positive trait you want to recount; with each flower, verbally list off what makes your heart sing.
  • Place romantic cards throughout the house, or use the house for some play on words. One year, Bill woke up to signs that read things like “You are my CUP of tea,” “I love to STAIR at you,” “You’ve opened the DOOR to my heart.”

The goal of all romantic gestures is to show your mate you remember him or her and why you first fell in love. God can help your creative juices flow because God is the author of love—after all, “We love because he {God} first loved us” (1 John 4:19).

Bill and Pam Farrel are international speakers and bestselling authors of over 40 books including the bestselling Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti, 10 Best Decisions a Couple Can Make, Red Hot Monogamy and The Secret Language of Successful Couples.

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  • 02/04/2015
    Kathy said:

    i like to leave individually wrapped chocolates in different places throught the house where I know he will find them.

    I write little notes as to why I respect him and what I thank him for.


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