You Complete Me
by H. Norman Wright
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2:18
God created marriage for companionship. As John Milton observed, “Loneliness was the first thing God’s eye named not good.” Loneliness and isolation are contradictions to the purpose of God’s creative act. God made man to live with others, and the first “other” was woman.
God also created marriage for completeness. The woman was to be “a helper suitable for him.” The woman was created to be a complement or counterpart for the man. Woman assists man in making his life (and hers, too) complete. She fills up the empty places. She shares his life with him, draws him out of himself and into a wider area of contact through the involvement they have with one another. The partners in a marriage relationship are actually fulfilling God’s purpose of completeness or wholeness in life. They belong together.
Dr. Dwight Small describes the relationship in this way:
When a man and a woman unite in marriage, humanity experiences a restoration to wholeness.
…The glory of the man is the acknowledgment that woman was created for him; the glory of the woman is the acknowledgment that man is incomplete without her. The humility of the woman is the acknowledgment that she was made for man; the humility of the man is the acknowledgment that he is incomplete without her.
Marriage brings with it the opportunity for either competition or completion. Completion is God’s plan. Have you made the rich discovery of completeness as man and wife?
It takes humility to say to your partner, “Let me share with you the ways in which my life has been made more complete and full by being married to you.” Try it. You might just like it!
Taken from: Quiet Times for Couples. Copyright © 1990 by H. Norman Wright. Published by Harvest House Publishers, Eugene, OR. Used by permission.