Busting the Top 7 Parenting Lies

1 comment Posted on September 1, 2017

Lori Wildenbergby Lori Wildenberg

Here are 7 common lies that get in the way of our best God-honoring parenting.

1. Correction will crush my child.

Correction isn’t rejection. Children can be corrected in a positive, non-shaming way.

2. I just want my child to be happy.

A wimpy character and weak parental prayers are the result of the happiness goal. Rescuing our kids from unhappy experiences doesn’t encourage emotional, mental or spiritual growth.

3. Siblings must work out disagreements on their own.

Kids need tools and guidance when it comes to conflict resolution. Otherwise, the smartest or strongest rules the roost.

Messy Journey4. A parent must be consistent.

Be consistent in promises, safety measures, morals, values and faith. Feel free to adjust discipline or punishment according to the situation.

5. Fear makes kids obedient.

Intimidation is not the type of fear we want our kids to have. Eventually, this will lead to rebellion.

6. I need to be my child’s best friend.

A child has no confidence in the parent’s ability to lead, guide and protect him if the parent acts like a peer. Inevitably, he will become resentful.

7. A raised voice means business.

Once we raise our voice, we have lost the battle and the child has won. Stay in control, maintain respect and get to the solution side of the issue.

Bust these lies, and you will feel freedom and relief!

Lori Wildenberg is passionate about helping families build connections that last a lifetime. She is a licensed parent-family educator and co-founder of 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting. Lori’s most recently published book is Messy Journey, How Grace and Truth Offer the Prodigal a Way Home. To connect with Lori go to www.loriwildenberg.com.


  • 09/20/2017
    Elizabeth Spencer said:

    I LOVE this, Lori! Thank you in particular for #3. I’ve never been good about following this “rule,” so I appreciate your perspective that makes me feel I’m right to break it! 😉 And YES to all the others. So glad to find this–and MTL!–today!


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