Connecting With Your Spouse in Small Ways
My fiancé and I lived nearly 1,000 miles apart during our six-month engagement. Young and practically penniless, we rationed our long-distance phone conversations to one per week. Between those calls, we connected in a small way.
I’d return home from my job at 10 P.M. each night and immediately dial (wow—I just dated myself!) my fiancé’s home. I’d let the phone ring twice before hanging up the receiver. Upon hearing the double ring, my fiancé knew I was safe and thinking of him. He’d then return my call in the same manner. It was simple, free, and our special way of saying, “I love you. I miss you. Good night.”
We’ve since lived under the same roof for nearly 33 years. Distance is no longer an obstacle to our staying connected. Now life’s busyness threatens to draw us apart. And so we push back.
We occasionally play table games. When the weather’s good, we hop on our motorcycle for a quick spin. We do lunch at a local Vietnamese restaurant for no particular reason. We take walks together, read together, and pray together.
Staying connected in small ways keeps our hearts in tune and strengthens our relationship. It’s well worth the effort.
How about you? What’s the biggest obstacle to you and your spouse staying connected? What steps can you take to overcome that obstacle?
Grace Fox is an international speaker at women’s events and the author of eight books including One-Minute Romance for Couples. She and her husband lead International Messengers Canada, a ministry that focuses on building God’s kingdom in Eastern Europe. www.im-canada.ca