Curmudgeon or Contented?

0 comments Posted on April 25, 2017

Deb DeArmondby Deb DeArmond

The word curmudgeon means one who is “ill tempered and complains loudly about small things.” Have you heard any of that around your home or office lately?

Everywhere, every day, you hear complaints. The weather is too hot, or too cold, the traffic was bad, or we haven’t had enough rain. On and on goes the lament.

Have you ever considered the impact on your family? Our children may complain because they hear it so often. They learn from us to focus on what’s wrong and to expect the worst.  I recently read about one mother who was determined to stop her children’s whining. Her solution? All complaints were to be submitted in writing; minimum of two hundred words. She soon discovered a reduction in complaints!

Don't Go to Bed AngryPaul and Silas had much to complain about in prison, yet they chose to praise and sing. While in a concentration camp, Corrie ten Boom rose every morning singing, “Stand up, stand up for Jesus!” Abraham Lincoln experienced a troubling life, yet he persevered.

The spirit of contentment is a character of godliness. Deep peace that results in deep trust in God’s loving kindness cannot be destroyed even in the worst circumstances.

Amy Carmichael suggested that with each disappointment and interruption of life to, “see in it a chance to die.” Not literally of course, but as a chance to discard self-pity and find contentment in God’s purpose.

You set the tone. What is the impact of your conversation today?

Deb DeArmond is an expert in the fields of communication, relationship, and conflict resolution. Her newest book is entitled  Don’t Go to Bed Angry. Stay Up and Fight. Deb’s books help readers, whether newlywed or long-time married, create the life God meant marriage and family to be. Read Deb at Family Matters/Deb DeArmond.


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