Dealing with Disappointment
It’s Valentine’s Day, and your husband or boyfriend didn’t get you anything. Nothing. Not even a card. He said he forgot. And now you’re disappointed.
Or maybe you don’t have a special someone on the big heart holiday. You’ve been single longer than you ever anticipated and you’re feeling frustrated because you always seem to be the bridesmaid and not the bride.
“Where is my special someone?” you bemoan.
Whether you didn’t get the job you wanted or a friend let you down—again—when you really needed her, dashed hopes and thwarted dreams come in all shapes and sizes. And they’re always painful.
It’s normal to feel sad or upset when hard things happen. But it’s essential to deal with your disappointments so little hurts don’t pile up into large ones. Disappointment can spiral quickly into despair or depression if you don’t get a hold of your thought life.
How do you handle your discontentment? Will you sulk or will you stand strong on the promises of God? Remember, you have a choice. Here are a few essential things to remember when disappoint has you feeling down.
What you tell yourself matters. Whether they’re big hurts or little annoyances, it’s what you do with your pain that determines how you will move forward. You can be hopeless and think, “I’m never going to find a job” or hopeful and say, “I guess that wasn’t the right job for me. God has something better suited to my skills; I will bounce back.”
Don’t mull, release disappointments. My mother used to say that garbage needs to be taken out at least once a week, and so does the garbage in your heart. When you hold onto frustration, resentment or discouragement it can fester inside. Instead, feel your feelings, and then release your pain. The best way to do that is in prayer; talk to God about how you feel and what happened.
Get a fresh perspective. Ask yourself, “How can I view this situation differently?” Just as flying high in an airplane helps you to see the bigger picture of the earth below, getting a new perspective on your circumstances can help you feel better.
Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” All things? Even this painful disappointment?
Yes, even this.
We don’t know how or when, but God promises to work all things together for a higher and better purpose. That’s where trust comes in—and prayer. As you pray about your disappointments, be encouraged. Because even when you cannot see the way, even when you do not understand or like it, God is at work taking care of your situation.
Our times are in His hands.
Jackie M. Johnson is an author, blogger and freelance writer. Her books include Powerful Prayers for Challenging Times, Power Prayers for Women, and When Love Ends and the Ice Cream Carton Is Empty. Jackie blogs at Living Single on Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk website. She is member of Advanced Writers and Speakers (AWSA) and Christian Authors Network (CAN). Visit Jackie at www.jackiejohnsoncreative.com or on Facebook.