Dealing with the Grit of Parenting

0 comments Posted on August 15, 2013

Cara Putmanby Cara C Putman

As the mother of four kiddos ages 12 to 2, there are days it feels like my life is an absolute circus. A really loud one. One that has more sideshows than the ring leader can contain.

Recently I had one of those days where this momma was ready to check out. The momma that everyone thinks has it all together couldn’t take one more mess. One more muddle. One more moved item. One more shouted word. Yet there was nowhere to go.

Some days trapped is the best word…the only word…to describe mothering.

On those days, I have to beg God to enlighten me to what He’s showing me. I know every day can’t be sheer bliss…though I’d love to try a stretch like that. And I know some days simply won’t be fun. Still, on days like that one, I have to pause and wonder what I’m contributing to the angst.

Has the exuberance of my five-year-old led to shortness of patience in me? Has the clinginess of my two-year-old got me wishing he were twenty rather than enjoying every moment of this too short season? Does the petulance of my twelve-year-old leave me ready to quit trying? And the need to please of my nine-year-old show my negative side?

Wedding TranspiresI long to live a life that demonstrates that “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from Him.” Psalm 127:3. On days like that one, I’m sure my children wonder.

So on those days, I ask God to show me what’s going on in me. Where is there grit in my life that needs to surrounded by His love, grace, and sanctification? I ask Him to help me live transparently with my kids so they can see my heart for Him even in the days I don’t serve as a perfect example. And I beg Him to turn the grit in my life and my kids’ lives into beautiful pearls of His redemption.

Cara C. Putman lives in Indiana with her husband and four children. She’s an attorney and a teacher at her church as well as lecturer at Purdue. She has loved reading and writing from a young age and now realizes it was all training for writing books. She loves bringing history and romance to life. Cara is an author chasing hard after God as she lives a crazy life. She invites you to join her on that journey. Readers can interact with Cara online at


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