Dear Solo Parent, You Are Not Alone
by Robert Beeson
Let’s start with a census fact. One in three US households is a single-parented home. It is common to feel isolated going through the solo season, not knowing where you fit in or where you belong. The truth is you are a part of one of the largest population groups in our nation.
Now focus on this biblical fact: Even if you don’t feel God’s presence right now, He is with you. You may feel invisible or forgotten—I hear this every week in our Solo Parent Society groups. But in fact, your Father has never been closer. “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed” (Psalm 34:18, NLT). Your heavenly Father is very aware of what you and your kids are experiencing.
As solo parents, we find ourselves exhausted from “keeping all the plates in the air”—juggling the kids, lawyers, bills, and job as we wrestle with our sanity. The voices in our head can be so loud: You failed. You’re not enough. There’s no hope. You can’t do it. You are all alone. Replace those voices with this truth: You are held gently and tenderly, yet firmly, in the hands of the One who created the universe, and who loves you dearly. He is not surprised or caught off guard by any aspect of what you are going through, and He is still completely in charge.
In my own darkest days, I held on to this verse with all my might: “Don’t panic. I’m with you. There’s no need to fear for I’m your God. I’ll give you strength. I’ll help you. I’ll hold you steady, keep a firm grip on you” (Isaiah 41:10, MSG).
Solo parent, He sees you. He knows you. He holds you.
Music executive Robert Beeson founded Essential Records and was a senior executive at Provident Music Group. He has worked with Jars of Clay, Third Day, Casting Crowns, Michael W. Smith and others. He is the founder of iShine Records, a faith-based music/multimedia company geared to tweens. After seven years as a single parent, Beeson remarried. He lives in Franklin, Tennessee, with his wife, Barbara, and his three daughters and three stepsons. Robert recently launched Solo Parent Society, a community for solo parents to thrive.