Diffusing Money Conflicts

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Susan Mathisby Susan Mathis

“We talk about all our purchases, whether small or big—and we trust each other,” Isabel says. “If I need something, I can buy it because we just aren’t extravagant with our purchases.”

“That’s part of the flexibility of trusting each other,” Marcos says. “As long as we’re open and honest with what we do, and we make respectful, joint decisions, we don’t need to worry.”

Understanding each other’s money priorities and views can defuse many disagreements. But that’s only half the battle. Self-discipline and restraint are also critical components of money management. Together you need to come to a mutual agreement on how much you will spend and save, what sacrifices you will make, and what priorities you will establish.

Countdown for CouplesIf one of you spends a lot and needs the latest brand-name fashions, wants to eat out a lot, or loves to shop, while the other wants to save every penny, there is bound to be conflict.

“There are always tweaks we need to make,” Marcos says, “so we’re always making those adjustments. We’re thankful for what we have, and we find a good balance together. Part of that balance is to keep on planning, setting goals, and dreaming. We may not be rich financially, but we’re rich in our life together.”

The-Remarriage-AdventureGod ordained that we should be good stewards and manage our resources well. He wants us to acquire money honestly (Proverbs 13:11), invest it carefully (Matthew 25:16; Luke 14:28), spend it wisely (Philippians 4:19), and share it joyfully (2 Corinthians 9:7; Acts 4:32-35). Couples who find ways to do this well will thrive financially.

Adapted from The ReMarriage Adventure: Preparing for a Lifetime of Love & Happiness. Susan is author of The ReMarriage Adventure: Preparing for a Lifetime of Love & Happiness and Countdown for Couples: Preparing for the Adventure of Marriage with her husband, Dale. Please visit www.SusanGMathis.com for more. Copyright © 2014, all rights reserved.


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