Do You Know Who You Really Are?

0 comments Posted on August 14, 2012

I’ll admit it. I’ve found myself saying “That’s just the way I am.” I realize now how pathetic that sounds.

Maybe, like me, you’ve found yourself saying things like:

“I have abandonment issues. I’m just that way.”

“I will never trust another person. That’s just the way I am.”

“I have always needed a man in my life. I’m just that way.”

“Sorry I got so defensive. You should know I’m just that way.”

A sure sign that we are stuck from pain in our past is when we excuse our behavior by saying “That’s just the way I am.”

In my newest book, When a Woman  Overcomes Life’s Hurts, I point out a crucial step to healing and wholeness: Renew your mind to think differently. If you have a relationship with God, the old you that was “just that way” is gone. And the new you is one that is, in essence, “just like Him.”

Here are two practical ways you can renew your mind and receive your new identity — the one that is “just like Him”:

1. Let God Define Who You Are This happens when you get into God’s Word and understand what He is saying to you through the Scriptures.  God says you’re His friend, His beloved, a saint, unconditionally loved, forever secure, His masterpiece, and so on. Let God define who you are — not your parents,  your past, a school teacher from long ago, or a boss who thought you weren’t  capable of much.

2. Lock Up the Negative Thoughts – In order to let God — and not the voices in your head — define you, we must learn to bring “every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5). When you hear negative thoughts from your head defining you, capture them instead of letting them run loose. Be determined to only hear the thoughts that are obedient to God, the thoughts that are consistent with His Word’s description of you.

Who are you really, my friend? Renew your mind — and receive your new identity — with the beautiful descriptions of you found in God’s Word.

Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and author of several books, including When a Woman  Overcomes Life’s Hurts. For more on her books and free resources to strengthen your soul,  see


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