Don’t Look Back—You’re Not Going that Way

0 comments Posted on October 23, 2018

by Deb DeArmond

As a kid, my dad would affectionately call me a klutz. It usually accompanied a trip, a bump, or something knocked over. Mom would gently say, “Debbie, please watch where you’re walking. You weren’t even looking in that direction.”

Walking left and looking right can be dangerous. Moving ahead while glancing over your shoulder often takes us somewhere we wished we hadn’t gone. It does makes sense however to take an occasional pit stop, get your bearings and ensure you’re still on track.

Looking back over your life to assess the landscape is valuable. Is this where I thought I’d be? Am I doing the things I thought I’d be doing? Often, for me, the answer has been absolutely not! I haven’t been to Paris, lost that extra 15 (okay, 20) pounds, and I couldn’t ice skate if my life depended on it. Many items on the list are not yet accomplished, both personal and professional. I did think more of them would be checked off by now.

But in so many ways, I believe my life is better than I’d envisioned it would be. But that’s not a quick assessment—I had to release some things and embrace others. You can’t do both at once.

I had to let some of my dreams go to grab onto those God intended. He promises if we let go, there are good things ahead for us: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future,” Jeremiah 29:11 (NLT).

To quote a friend, “The surest way to be disappointed is to set your heart on something other than God.” And remember: don’t look back—you’re not going that way!

Deb DeArmond is an expert in the fields of communication, relationship and conflict resolution. Her newest book is entitled Don’t Go to Bed Angry. Stay Up and Fight! Deb’s books help readers, whether newlywed or long-time married, create the life God meant marriage and family to be. Visit Deb on her website:


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