Expectations and the Great Slaw Caper

1 comment Posted on October 23, 2014

Dianne Barkerby Dianne Barker

My husband loves my “Refrigerator Slaw” and I delight in making it for him. The oil-and-vinegar dressing keeps the slaw fresh and tasty for several days, and James enjoys the slaw with meals as well as a snack.

“It’s all gone,” he said, finishing the last of a batch. I never make the slaw again immediately, but I decided that just for him, I’d make it the next day. It could marinate overnight and be ready to eat the following day. In fact, why not make a double batch?

While shopping for the ingredients, I smiled, thinking how pleased James would be. After dinner while he watched cable news in the sunroom, I began the preparation, humming as I shredded cabbage and sliced onion and green pepper.

Slaw Salad“What are you doing?” he called.

“Come and see!” I said cheerily, anticipating his surprise and delight. What would he say when he walked into the kitchen and saw that huge double-batch of slaw?

My expectation: “Honey, how sweet of you to make more of my favorite slaw!”

What he actually said: “My land! I’ve eaten that stuff every day for two weeks!”

Exploding in laughter, I breathed a prayer of thanks for the Lord’s work in my heart, exposing unreasonable expectations that had often left me feeling bruised and battered.

A personalized version of Matthew 7:3 changed me. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your [husband’s] eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?

9781462735105_COVER.inddDianne Barker is a conference speaker, freelance journalist, radio host, and author of eleven books. Her 1986 best-seller Twice Pardoned (life of Harold Morris) was the first book for Focus on the Family Publishing. I Don’t Chase the Garbage Truck Down the Street in My Bathrobe Anymore! Organizing for the Maximum Life, won the Christian Authors Network 2014 Golden Scrolls third-place award for non-fiction book of the year. A member of Christian Authors Network and Advanced Writers and Speakers Association, she hosts “At the Library” on the Christian radio station WHCB 91.5 FM, Bristol, Tennessee, Saturdays at 3:30 p.m. EST www.whcbradio.org. Today’s blog post is from her upcoming book Help! I’m Stuck and I Can’t Get Out—the Maximum Marriage Maintenance and Repair Kit. For recipe, visit Dianne’s blog at  www.diannebarker.com.


  • 10/23/2014
    Louise Montgomery said:

    Thanks for the reminder. Would you be able to post the receipe for the slaw in the comment section here?


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