My mother died of breast cancer several years ago, and I learned people mourn in different ways. Below are some of the symptoms of grief.
- Lashing out in anger
- Refusing to talk
- Talking nonstop
- Fear of being alone
- Isolating oneself
- Obsessive/compulsive behavior
When the holidays arrive, grief doesn’t take a vacation. Sometimes it intensifies the loss. Grief is actually a process that doesn’t have specific start and end dates. It lasts as long as it must. Here are four ways to cope.
- Immerse yourself in God’s Word. Ecclesiastes 3:4 and Psalm 30:5 tell us that there is a time to weep and a time to mourn, but joy will come again.
- Ask for prayer. If facing another Christian is too difficult, there are many online prayer groups. Focus on the Family accepts prayer requests by email.
- Instead of dwelling on negative memories, reminisce about the good times you shared with your loved one.
- Seek help. If the emotional pain becomes debilitating, contact your pastor or Christian counselor. Focus on the Family offers a FREE one-time counseling session with a licensed counselor. For more information, call 1-800-232-6459 (hours 8am-10pm CST).
Whether it’s holiday time or an ordinary day of the week, grief takes no vacation. But allowing yourself to take this journey, instead of fighting it, can make things easier on you and everyone involved.
Andrea Boeshaar has been married for nearly 40 years. She is the author of Christian fiction and nonfiction. Additionally, Andrea cofounded ACFW (American Christian Fiction Writers) and served on its Advisory Board for a number of years. In 2007, Andrea earned her certification in Christian Life Coaching and she’s now the purveyor of Steeple View Coaching for Writers and The Writer’s ER. For more information, log onto her website: www.andreaboeshaar.com. LIKE her Facebook: www.facebook.com/Andrea.Boeshaar. Follow her on Twitter: @AndreaBoeshaar.