How Can I Help My Husband Understand?

1 comment Posted on October 25, 2019

by Debbie W. Wilson

Do you wish your husband understood your needs better?

When our children were young, my husband wanted me to homeschool our son. I knew traditional schooling wasn’t working for this energetic boy. And my husband was right, I liked challenges and learning new skills. But patience with teaching children was my short suit. He had no idea what he was asking.

I agreed to try and scheduled my counseling clients around our schooling. By supper I was frazzled. The children’s antics that amused my husband irritated me. This was not working—for me.

I asked my husband if he could teach our children one day a week so I could see all of my clients at the office on the day he taught. He cheerfully agreed.

This small shift did my heart good. On the days I saw clients, I was the parent who delighted in our evening family times, and he was the worn-out parent. Maybe I wasn’t so bad after all.

The next year he decided homeschooling wasn’t necessary!

The Bible tells husbands to live with their wives in an understanding way (1 Peter 3:7). Sometimes they need our help to understand what we need. They can’t read minds.

Do you feel your husband doesn’t appreciate your needs? Could it be that he sees your skills and doesn’t comprehend what’s involved in what you do? Maybe it’s time to show and tell.

Drawing from her walk with Christ, and years as a Christian counselor, coach, and Bible teacher, Debbie W. Wilson helps women enjoy grace-filled lives. She is the author of Little Women, Big God, Give Yourself a Break, and Little Faith, Big God, to be released February 2020.


  • 11/10/2019
    Marilyn Couch said:

    Great article, Debbie! Look forward to your new
    book coming out in 2020!!


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