Instead of Being Happy When, Will You Be Happy While?

0 comments Posted on October 18, 2012

by Valorie Burton

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.  –OPRAH WINFREY

Point to Ponder:
Research shows that only ten percent of happiness is determined by your circumstances. Forty percent is based on what you think and do daily.

It’s an art to remain content with where you are while you’re on the way to something better. Do you feel worn out as you race toward the finish line of a goal? We hear the cliché all the time: “It’s about the journey, not the destination.” But living out the cliché can be a challenge! In a world that values the new and improved it can be tempting to say, “I sure will be happy when I get that new job/my kids graduate/I retire/I win the lottery.” But what’s even better is being able to say, “I sure will be happy while I wait for that new job/my kids are with me/I’m blessed to have a job.” Whenever I’ve noticed a spirit of discontentment rising up to steal my joy, I coach myself with a few questions that help me appreciate the value of here and now.

1. What are you grateful for?

Contentment and gratitude are inextricably connected. Gratitude empowers you to notice the blessings right in front of you. It opens your mind to the little blessings that, if they suddenly disappeared, wouldn’t seem so little anymore. Stop talking, thinking, and complaining about what you don’t have and start noticing what you do have.

2. What’s the most important lesson  offered to you right now?

When you’re too focused on the future, you can miss the lesson being offered to you today. Even more important than reaching a goal is who you become in the process of reaching it. What character traits are being developed? What destructive habits are being eliminated? What are you learning that you would not have learned otherwise? Look for the lessons. Appreciate them.

3. When you look back on this time a year from now, what will you wish you had done?

This question is a biggie. When frustration impacts your attitude, you are more likely to make choices you’ll later regret. But when you ask yourself this question, you suddenly recognize the magnitude of the opportunity before you. What do you want your legacy to be? Rather than complaining or murmuring about how hard things are, you have an opportunity to face the challenges before you like a champion.

4. In what ways have you already made progress?

Stop taking yourself for granted. Maybe you haven’t made perfect progress, but who has? Acknowledge what you have done. Notice your milestones while they are happening. Celebrate them. Treat yourself. Tell the world.  Rather than waiting to reach the finish line before you mark your progress, do it with every step you take.

My Challenge to You
Choose to be content right now.

Coach Yourself
In what ways do you struggle with a spirit of discontentment? Take some time to consider and respond to the four questions above.



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