Make This a Year to Unwind

0 comments Posted on January 10, 2020

by Randy Southern

Life together can get busy, stressful, and sometimes just routine. It is not what we intended or wanted—it just happens.  If we drift in our relationship, we will likely drift apart. We don’t want that to happen, so let’s put our oars in the water and row together to our intended goal: an intimate, loving, supportive, enjoyable relationship.

In 52 Uncommon Ways to Unwind Together, Randy Southern gives us unique yet practical ways to relax, refresh, and renew our relationships. Why 52? Because there are 52 weeks in the year. However, let me be honest: it is not realistic to think that you will participate in one of these “uncommon ways” each week. So set yourself a goal: one every other week, or only one each month. At least you will be moving in the right direction.

Doing the same things week after week with no diversion can lead to boredom. Routines are good. They help us get the necessary things done effectively. But, we need to intersperse the routine with the uncommon. Marriages either grow or regress. They never stand still. We all need help in relaxing, de-stressing, and refreshing our marriages. Randy Southern provides uncommon ways to reach this goal:

Spend some time thinking about the arc of your relationship with your spouse—not just the highs and lows, but also the people, places, and things that played a role in it. Look for songs together that correspond with that arc. Create a playlist with your spouse that tells the story of your relationship.

You may not be in a financial position to take your dream vacation this year. You may not even be in a financial position to take your dream vacation this decade. But why let such details stand in the way of a little anticipation? It’s never too early to start preparing for your perfect getaway.

Everyone has different tastes—in food, books, movies, pastimes. The fact that two people don’t share the same tastes doesn’t make them incompatible; it makes them individuals. It’s inevitable that there are things your spouse likes that you don’t—and vice versa. Here’s an opportunity to change each other’s minds (or not).  Each of you will choose one thing for the other to try.

This is not a book to simply read. It is a book to be experienced. The book provides ideas. You must make choices and take action steps to implement these “uncommon ways” to unwind and refresh your relationship.

Excerpted from 52 Uncommon Ways to Unwind Together: A Couple’s Guide to Relaxing, Refreshing, and De-Stressing by Randy Southern (©2020). Published by Moody Publishers. Used by permission.


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