Making Up for Lost Time

0 comments Posted on April 6, 2021

by Dianne Barker

If you could recover one thing lost during the pandemic, what would it be? My answer—time with people I love.

We’ve lived with anxiety and uncertainty, but the hardest part has been separation. I haven’t hugged my grandchildren (ages six and nine) in over a year. Zoom visits just aren’t the same as embracing those precious little ones and lavishing them with kisses.

COVID has taught us a significant truth: nothing surpasses relationships in importance.

We’ve made adjustments in every area of life. Working from home. Ordering grocery delivery. Attending church online.

Isolation gave us some protection against the virus, but it left us starved for personal interaction with our people.

My first clue to the value that relationships hold in the heart came from my father. My mom, who was twenty years younger, died unexpectedly three weeks before his 100th birthday.

To help him battle loneliness, I suggested we attend a weekly luncheon at our local senior center, where he could make new friends. As folks introduced themselves, he’d smile and open his wallet to display photos, saying, “Let me show you my grandchildren!”

After living a hundred years, he found relationships were what mattered most. Relationships with family and friends are irreplaceable treasures.

Jesus spent time building relationships. He chose twelve disciples to surround Him, teaching them, eating with them, sharing His deepest thoughts, and loving them without limits—good relationship ingredients.

And He gave us an excellent pattern for handling difficult relationships. “Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you” (Matthew 5:44 KJV).

This is a good day to start making up for lost time. Cherish every moment with your people. For relationships that need repair, start here. Love, bless, do good, and pray!

Dianne Barker is a speaker, radio host, and author of 11 books, including the best-selling Twice Pardoned and award-winning I Don’t Chase the Garbage Truck Down the Street in My Bathrobe Anymore! Organizing for the Maximum Life. She’s a member of Christian Authors Network, Advanced Writers and Speakers Association, and Word Weavers International. Visit


Submit Comment