On the day when Zebedee and Salome were married, the priest could have said, “Salome, will you take Zebedee to be your husband? I now pronounce you Mr. and Mrs. Thunderbolt.” Can you imagine the possibilities for excitement and trouble in the marriage of Miss Assertive and Mr. Thunder?
You and your spouse may not have nicknames like these, but your personalities will eventually clash. Your strong differences were the very things that drew you to each other. In the early days, you probably found them to be the source of admiration and amusement. But after a while, these assets may have become liabilities. He loved your creativity, but now he thinks you’re too disorganized. You loved his determination, but now you think he’s bullheaded.
It is tempting in an argument to rationalize, “That’s just the way I am.” But in a Christ-centered marriage, we are called to be like Jesus. Your walk with God gives you the chance to be new. To be changed by His power. “So we have stopped evaluating others from a human point of view . . . This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” (2 Corinthians 5:16 – 17 NLT).
As disciples of Jesus, we spend time with Him and study His character. Then with His Spirit inside us, we can abandon our need to be right and celebrate again how God designed our spouse. When we willingly honor each other, our marriages can display the glory of Christ.
From God’s Word . . .
“Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.” (ROMANS 12:4 – 6)