Raising Boys

0 comments Posted on December 20, 2021

by Karen Whiting

It didn’t take long as a mom to my first son to notice the difference of boys from girls. My first daughter wanted to see faces, while Michael wanted to look around and watch mobiles, moving things fascinated him more than people. As a mom of five, I continued to see the differences, especially in their focus and application.

They played with the same toys but in different ways. My girls loved putting the people on and off a toy bus and talked about the trip. It was a social play time. While my sons dumped the people in and took off pulling the bus and laughed as the people fell out. They cared about the movement and speed. They tried to do what dad did while the girls wanted dad to join them in tea parties and reading books.

Boys love to fill pockets with stuff, often dirty and crawly stuff. The girls filled purses and containers, but they choose tiny toys or soft feathers more than rocks, sand and bugs. My sons also loved to take apart toys and items to find out how they worked and then try to put them back together.

They all cooked with me and enjoyed changing up ingredients to make something new, but the boys focused on the eating and how the ingredients reacted while the girls wanted to add decorating touches and serve the food.

They all learned to read, but the boys wanted to find the humor, adventure and action or the facts while the girls wanted to explore emotions of characters and the stories that touched their hearts more. Bible stories with action, miracles and might intrigued them.

My sons are men who work as engineers and accountants and tinker with fixing things. They like to help people with moves, disaster recovery and manual work. My daughters are women who care about creating the home environment, nurturing children and comforting people.

These days, we have a crisis in the education of boys where they have fallen behind girls at every level and the earning of degrees. They also suffer an identity crisis and feel their masculinity is shamed. Much is due to dad-deprivation. Let’s embrace and encourage boys in their natural bent!

Karen Whiting is the author of thirty books, including her latest Devos for Brave Boys coauthored with Jesse Florea and published by Tyndale Kids. With the decline in literacy in boys and decline in Bible literacy overall, there’s a great need for books that promote boys embracing faith and manhood.


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