Resting from Regret

0 comments Posted on May 22, 2020

by Debbie W. Wilson

A heartbroken mother came to me, grieving the death of her young daughter. Her regrets complicated her grief. She had subjected her child to numerous painful and disfiguring medical treatments in the hope of keeping her little girl alive a little longer. The memory of the child’s resulting disfigurement taunted her.

“If only” is a form of fretting. Using Psalm 37:5, this mother wrote a letter committing her child into God’s hands for safekeeping. She gave her heavenly Father full responsibility to nurture and raise her daughter in the way He knew best. “Please, tell her how sorry I am for putting her through that last surgery. Tell her how much I love and miss her.”

This simple act released her burden. She still missed her daughter, but without the bitterness of guilt, worry, and regret. Her sadness was tempered with the hope that her daughter had the best care and knew her mother loved her.

When we make mistakes, instead of wallowing in regret, we need to remember Psalm 37:23-24 (NIV), “The Lord makes firm the steps of the one who delights in him; though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the Lord upholds him with his hand.”

Trust God to keep His promise. Feed on His faithfulness. He has not let you go. He cares about what concerns you, because He cares about you.

Adapted from Give Yourself a Break.

Drawing from her walk with Christ, and decades as a Christian counselor and Bible teacher, Debbie W. Wilson helps women enjoy grace-filled lives. Her most recent book Little Faith, Big God explores the lives and lessons found in Hebrews 11. Find free resources and connect with Debbie at


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