Ridding Yourself of the What Ifs
I’ll admit it. I’ve said the words aloud or thought them many times.
And I’m guessing you have, too.
They’re two of the most debilitating words a woman can say, especially in regard to her children. They fill our minds with doubt and our hearts with fear.
They are the words: “What if…?”
“What if my children don’t make friends?” “What if they follow the wrong crowd?” “What if they’re lying to me?” “What if they never marry or never get a good job?” And finally: “What if I’m not a good enough mom?”
But I realized one day, after spending time in God’s Word, that at the root of all my “What if” questions is what I really believe about God’s character. When my mind plays through the various what ifs, the question I’m really asking is “What if God isn’t able?” “What if God isn’t good?” “What if God can’t handle this?”
There’s a reason God’s Word tells me, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7, NLT).
As I give God all of my what ifs, He can calm my heart and remind me that He is in control.
That was the lesson I had to learn before I wrote my book, 10 Secrets to Becoming a Worry-Free Mom. Based on my own experience mothering—as well as wisdom and advice from many other moms—I found that there are treasures (secrets, if you will) to discover as we surrender to God what is closest to our hearts—our children.
One of those treasures is the incredible peace He offers as the Perfect Parent who allows us to partner with Him in raising, loving and caring (not worrying) for our kids.
When I give Him what’s closest to my heart I am saying “You, God, are capable. You are trustworthy. And all of my worries and what ifs are in vain.”
Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and author of more than a dozen books, including her newest, 10 Secrets to Becoming a Worry-Free Mom. Cindi and her husband, Hugh, live in Southern California with their daughter, Dana. For more on her ministry, see her website: StrengthForTheSoul.com or find her on Facebook.