Seven Steps to Refresh a Stale Marriage
by Dianne Barker
Helping couples build a strong, joy-filled marriage is my passion. Here are seven steps to refresh a stale relationship.
- Be kind. “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32).
- Forget the past. “But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 3:13-14).
- Treat your spouse like an enemy. “Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you” (Matthew 5:44 KJV).
- Forsake unwholesome communication. “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen” (Ephesians 4:29).
- Love by decision. “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you” (John 15:12).
- Practice the golden rule. “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.” (Matthew 7:12).
- Walk in the Spirit. “So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh…But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control” (Galatians 5:16, 22, 23).
* Scriptures from NIV unless noted
Dianne Barker is a speaker, radio host, and author of 11 books, including the best-selling Twice Pardoned and award-winning I Don’t Chase the Garbage Truck Down the Street in My Bathrobe Anymore! Organizing for the Maximum Life. She’s a member of Christian Authors Network, Advanced Writers and Speakers Association, and Word Weavers International. www.diannebarker.com.