Some Thoughts About Entitlement
We live in a day and age when people increasingly seem to feel entitled to “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” This seems to be especially true in our relationships with others. Many of us believe that we are entitled to people loving and caring about us. Thinking that way only sets the stage for us to not truly appreciate it when people are loving. That, in turn, only serves to discourage people from being loving.
I’d like to propose an alternative way of thinking about human relationships. I’d like to suggest that we desire that people love us. I’d like for us to humbly acknowledge that being made in the image of God makes us worthy of being loved by others but does not entitle us to their love. If we could switch over to this more humble mindset about relationships with others, we would end up experiencing genuine gratitude when people treat us in a loving manner and it would encourage them to keep loving us.
The Apostle Paul said, “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world” (Romans 12:2). Thinking that were are entitled to others loving us is common and yet very destructive pattern of thinking in our world today. Let’s ask God to help us turn from a spirit of entitlement and turn toward a spirit of humility in desiring to be loved by others.