The Power of a Confession

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Kathy Collard Millerby Kathy Collard Miller

I said to my husband, Larry, “I would really like our side yard to be all concrete so we can put the trash cans there.”

Larry stared at me as if I were from outer space. “Why would you think that? I’m not even going to put the trash cans there.”

Did he really think my opinion wasn’t worth anything? The tension between us had been growing even though we’d been married 32 years. Since he had retired and we moved to a newly built home, we needed to make what seemed like thousands of decisions and we rarely agreed. The pressure was getting to us.

Then while I was out of town, I called home. I was shocked to hear Larry say, “Kathy, the Lord has convicted me. I’ve been thinking that your super-sensitivity was your problem. But I haven’t been your spiritual leader by helping you. I’m so sorry. Will you forgive me?”

Never Be the SameAs he spoke, a burden fell off my shoulders. He really cared! By the next day when I returned home, I felt completely different toward Larry. When I expressed my surprise at my loving attitude, Larry replied, “I’m not surprised at all. I hadn’t been the spiritual leader in caring for you, and the Lord assured me that taking leadership would give you the freedom you needed.”

Kathy Collard Miller ( is the author of 50 books including Never Ever Be the Same (co-authored with husband Larry). An international speaker, Kathy has spoken in over 30 states and 8 foreign countries. Kathy and Larry live in Southern California and often speak together on marriage.


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