Time to Play
When you’re dating, it’s easy to find time to have fun as a couple and discover what activities you like doing together. Having fun together is an important part of the emotional and relational bonding that instinctively happens.
Then you marry, you get busy with life, and all too often you forget to have fun together. Moreover, if each of you enjoy different sports, interests, and activities, doing your own thing can get in the way of enjoying time together.
Dale and I both tend to be workaholics, so we have to plan time to get refreshed. It’s an important part of keeping our relationship fresh and strong. We have discovered that we aren’t very good at spontaneity, so we have to be intentional about planning to do fun things together.
Several years ago we made a Bucket List of the bigger things, and we are ticking them off one at a time. For us, travel is a big part of that, but so is biking, hiking, and enjoying time with friends. What we often struggle with is to find fun things to do in our everyday world, so we’re always looking for new and fun things to do.
Whatever you find that will keep your marriage fresh and fun, be sure you don’t neglect that important element of your relationship. Strong marriages have a fun factor built into the fabric of their lives together, and whether you do most things together or intentionally strike a balance between together time and doing fun things individually, have some fun—together! Life is too short, too stressful, and too precious to waste it on work and busyness alone.
Susan is author of The ReMarriage Adventure: Preparing for a Lifetime of Love & Happiness and Countdown for Couples: Preparing for the Adventure of Marriage with her husband, Dale. Please visit www.SusanGMathis.com for more. Copyright © 2014, all rights reserved.