Trust is Fragile. Handle with Care.

4 comments Posted on August 3, 2017

Deb DeArmondby Deb DeArmond

Relationships can be a source of great joy—close friends and family help fill our need for connection. God made it clear we were not meant to “go it alone.” It started in the garden when He brought Adam his Eve.

Yet, relationships aren’t always easy.

  • At times, we break promises and let others down or disappoint.
  • We’re inconsistent in our communication, surprising people with a disparaging or unpleasant reaction they didn’t expect.
  • As individuals, we have our own opinions, beliefs and experience. Sometimes they clash with those we love.

Don't Go to Bed AngryWe’re human. It’s going to happen. But these moments can come between the closest of relationships. When conflict or discord occurs, we can feel upset, hurt or angry. Trust is often broken.

How can we establish healthy, trusting connections? Healthy enough to weather a trust-breaking moment? These trust-builders may help:

Be Consistent

“Oh, that my actions would consistently reflect your decrees!” (Ps. 119:5)

  • Make sure people know what to expect from you.
  • Live so you have a reliable pattern of behavior, conversation and expressed values.

Own Your Mistakes

“Pride leads to disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.” (Prov. 11:2)

  • Accept responsibility for your actions.
  • Apologize when wrong.
  • Become self-aware about your own failures; acknowledge them.
  • Resist blaming others to shift responsibility.

Honor Your Word

“But if you fail to keep your word, then you will have sinned against the Lord, and you may be sure that your sin will find you out” (Num. 32:23)

  • Don’t make promises you can’t keep.
  • When unable to keep a commitment, communicate quickly and explain why.
  • Follow through; do what you said you’d do.

Healthy relationships may not be easy to achieve, but they’re always worth the effort!

Deb DeArmond ( is an expert in the fields of communication, relationship and conflict resolution. Her newest book’s entitled Don’t Go to Bed Angry. Stay Up and Fight! Deb’s books help readers whether newlywed or long-time married create the life God meant marriage and family to be. Read Deb at Family Matters/Deb DeArmond.
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  • 08/07/2017
    Rosemarie Fitzsimmons said:

    Sage advice that never changes, Deb. Thanks for the reminder. I have the most trouble with apologies because I always worry about churning up the issue, usually to find out that the person I’m apologizing to doesn’t even recall the offense. I make up a lot of stuff, I suppose. :/

  • 08/07/2017
    Michelle Adserias said:

    Couldn’t agree more with owning your mistakes/taking responsibility for your actions, something the secular counseling world has discouraged by implying all our personal issues are rooted in how someone else treated us. While that may be true, in some instances, praise God He can free us from all that!

  • 08/07/2017
    Sally Matheny said:

    Great post. It reminds me of the saying about living your life in such a way that if someone lies about your behavior, no one will believe it. 🙂

  • 08/08/2017
    Becky Suggs said:

    Excellent words of wisdom here. Owning mistakes can be a challenge, but it is always such an important part of building trust.


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