When Mother’s Day is Difficult
by Candy Arrington
When I was a child, the man who lived next door appeared at the white fence that separated our yards early each Mother’s Day with several freshly cut red roses from his garden. I remember the smell of the rose pinned to a new dress my mother made, one the same color as hers. I understood a red rose signified a living mother and a white rose was worn by those whose mothers were no longer living.
On Mother’s Day, our church recognized special mothers: the oldest mother, the youngest mother, and the mother with the most children.
Growing up, Mother’s Day was a happy day; but years later, when my husband and I entered the valley of infertility, Mother’s Day was the most difficult day of the year. I became an expert at plastering a smile on my face and sending my mind elsewhere while mothers were recognized at church or babies were dedicated. It wasn’t until those years of waiting that I realized it was a hard day not only for those longing for a child, but also for mothers who had miscarried, suffered the death of a child, or had a prodigal.
Scripture mentions barren women, among them, Sarai, Rebekah, Rachel, Hannah, and Elizabeth. At a time when a woman’s value was measured by her fertility, barrenness was a source of shame and heartache.
Sarai grew tired of waiting for God to give her a child and took matters into her own hands. Her solution resulted in hatred, resentment, and abuse, and led to divisions that affected future generations.
Hannah suffered merciless ridicule from her husband’s other wife, abuse that caused her great emotional distress. Yet, Hannah continued to worship and praise God.
Perhaps you are currently waiting in some area of your life. Often, when we face difficult life situations, times when life feels on pause, and when we do not feel God is answering our prayers, we turn away from Him. Hannah is our example of how to respond when waiting is long and answers to prayer seem non-existent. Despite her circumstances, Hannah turned to worship and praise.
After years of waiting, God blessed us with two children, who today are parents. On Mother’s Day, I remember God’s faithfulness in times of heartache, distress, and waiting, and I hold a special place in my heart for those for whom the day is difficult.
Candy Arrington is a writer, blogger, and speaker. Her writing often focuses on tough topics and practical methods for moving through difficult life circumstances. Candy has written hundreds of articles and devotionals and authored three books, including Life on Pause: Learning to Wait Well (BVB). Visit Candy’s website https://candyarrington.com, follow on Twitter @CandyArrington, and LinkedIn.