When Our Children Disappoint Us

1 comment Posted on October 14, 2014

MTL-VickieMcDonoughby Vickie McDonough

“Train children in the right way, and when old, they will not stray.” – that is a promise to parents straight from the Bible, but what happens when your child does stray?

My husband and I raised four sons. We took them to church every Sunday, most Sunday nights and sometimes on Wednesday. The boys enjoyed their classes and youth groups, went on missions’ trips, and made many friends. We led by example as best we could, but two of our sons, now men, are not walking with God. And recently, one of our sons who has never been in trouble—ever—did something that shocked us to the core.

Rancher Under FireThe temptation to ask what I did wrong and to blame myself was there. It still is, but I keep shoving those thoughts away. Boys will be boys, and when they are men, they make their own choices—often not the ones I’d make. I’ve always prayed that God would do whatever is necessary to mold my sons into men of God. So why am I shocked when He goes to extremes to shape them?

I certainly don’t have all the answers, especially since I’m still working through the latest thing that happened. What I do know is that God loves my kids more than I ever could. My job was to train them in the ways of God and raise them the best I knew how and to set a good example. Now, I can pray for them and encourage them when they let me, but I have to trust God with their lives. The Bible tells us to “Train children in the right way, and when old, they will not stray.” It never states how old they will be before they realize God’s way is the only way.

Song of the PrairieI’ve done my best, so now I entrust my boys to the Lord and trust that He will lasso their hearts and draw them to Him. Be encouraged that God never quits working on our kids. He loves them far more than we do.

Best-selling author, Vickie McDonough, has written 34 books and novellas, most of which are historical romances. Her books have won numerous awards, including the Inspirational Readers Choice Awards, the Booksellers Best Award, and she is a multi-year finalist in the ACFW Carol Awards. Vickie’s latest books are Rancher Under Fire, a Love Inspired suspense, and Song of the Prairie, Book 3 in her Pioneer Promises series. Vickie also has three Christmas novellas in collections releasing this fall: Westward Christmas Brides, the Christmas Brides Collection, and The Fruitcake Bride, which is part of The 12 Brides of Christmas ebook series.



  • 10/14/2014
    Cathy said:

    Thanks for your words of wisdom to which I can relate. It’s good to be reminded that God loves our kids even more than their mamas do, and that yes indeed, the Bible doesn’t say how old they’ll be before they at least try to stick to God’s path.


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