Why Should I Apologize?
by Debbie W. Wilson
When my son was fifteen, we did our share of head-butting. After one such time, I felt the Lord press His thumb on my chest, telling me to apologize.
“Apologize? Lord, did you hear how he talked to me? Doesn’t the Bible say honor your father and mother?”
The pressure remained. Reluctantly, I climbed the stairs to my son’s bedroom and knocked on the door.
I took a deep breath and said, “I want to apologize for using that tone with you. Will you forgive me?”
“I knew you’d be back,” he said.
I swallowed the urge to remind him of why I’d been exasperated.
In a Hallmark movie, perhaps my son would have said, “My bad, Mom. I’m sorry I sassed you.” But this wasn’t a movie. And it didn’t matter how my son responded, I’d pleased God. The pain on my chest lifted. I was at peace with the Lord and myself.
Later, I saw my son’s words in a different light. He trusted me to be the Christian adult and to act with integrity. I cringe to think what might have happened to his heart or to our relationship if I hadn’t obeyed the prompting to apologize.
Has the Lord put His finger in an area and asked you to apologize even though the other person’s wrong seems worse? Do it. We never know the trickle effect of our obedience—or our disobedience.
Drawing from her walk with Christ, and decades as a Christian counselor and Bible teacher, Debbie W. Wilson helps women enjoy grace-filled lives. Her most recent book Little Faith, Big God explores the lives and lessons found in Hebrews 11. Find free resources and connect with Debbie at debbieWwilson.com.